It’s kind of a tricky feat to surrender to the infinite and to acknowledge the dark aspects of the Deities while at the same time feeling their endless love and the love from our departed loved ones, but in Witchcraft we are taught that a great many times the truth lies in the resolution of a paradox. In this case, we must learn that though the Hag of Winter may cause all things to wither and die and the Horned Lord may gather the spirits and take them to the Otherworld, these acts are done out of love and “death” is a necessary release and renewal for the spirit and all shall live again according to season. Death exists in life and life exists in death; both are inextricably linked (opposite sides of the same coin) and love is a bridge that can cross into both worlds.
An interesting way to connect to them is wondering what they currently doing, right now, in the Otherworld. Truly, realize that they are conscious and sentient beings still; they are just (currently) non-physical. On Halloween, after the usual celebrations, either as part of a formal ritual or not, set a place for your loved ones at the table, recall fond memories of them, light a candle in their honor, and try to focus on the love you shared. This will draw them to you and not only remind you how much they meant to you but also, remind them how much they meant to you.